A New Year, a new you — isn’t that how the saying goes? As a high school student, not sure I have lived long enough for any resolutions. This idea of a new me when I haven’t finalized the old me is a bit of a stretch. Why make resolutions for an idealistic version of myself when I could spend more time just celebrating my truths? Teenagers are so stressed these days, chasing an ideal of what could be great. Instead, take stock of what you know is true and embrace what you have learned. Here is what I know:
• I am a person with a messy bedroom and clothes on the floor. I have a process.
• Patience and tolerance are two of my best qualities. I am calm amid chaos.
• I would like to make it through high school without too much stress and feel happy with who I am. I don’t need to compare myself to others.
• I make mistakes. Working on my communication skills and navigating social media is a work in progress. Let’s laugh and talk more, not just text.
• The ones that love you? Love them back. I hug my mom every day before I leave for school. It makes us both feel good.
• Having grace and consideration for others has no price or expiration. Be kind. No, be kinder.
• Laugh and be humble. Your successes are only possible because of the failures you hide. Choose to share disappointments, let go of what ifs and try again.
• I can and should work even harder next semester. Not for anyone but myself.
• People remember effort. Give more, show up often and be consistent.
• Share your talents and your sparkle with others. If you are a great musician, play for others. If you are patient and kind, volunteer. Don’t hide your glow.
• It is OK to be different. Don’t let the limits of what others tell you define your goals or shape your personality. Do what excites you.
• You don’t have to do everything well or be award-winning in everything — or even anything. Being good enough is great.
• Acknowledging someone else’s accomplishments does not prohibit your own success. There is room for us to celebrate others. Thank you to all who have read my column and mentioned it to me.
• Try something new. Don’t worry if something looks good on a college app. Do you like it?
Lastly, honesty is the best policy with yourself. When you look in the mirror this new year, let your own truths be the best judge of who you are. Teens don’t need resolutions, they just need hope and positivity. Be hopeful. Know your truths.
— Milan Bansal, a freshman at Hinsdale Central, is a contritubing columnist. Readers can email him at [email protected].
